Why Gay Marriage Cannot Exist In Its Current Form

A few weeks back, I expressed support for the idea of gay marriage, if it was legalized along with stiffer divorce laws for both hetero- and homo-sexual marriages. I also expressed concern about the irresponsible actions of a homosexual gentleman (I use that term very loosely in this case - he is a gentleman only in the physical sense, other than that he is as close to pure evil as I have ever met) with whom I work. I held him up as my example of why I thought that the divorce laws needed to be strengthened first.

Today, my new gay coworker absolutely reinforced that idea and almost managed to turn me against the whole gay marriage movement.

To give the quick version of the story: he was in a gay "marriage" complete with rings, living together, and all that good stuff. He went into the Army, got kicked out (he claims because he violated "Don't ask, don't tell," which I can completely believe) and came home to find his husband's home up for sale. His "in-laws" told him that his hubby was dead. So in response he became, essentially, a male bimbo.

Last night, while grocery shopping, he ran into his "dead" husband. Turns out he was just in jail in the UK for drug trafficking.

OK, so they were separated for three years due to a lie on the part of his "in-laws." So they were separated for three years because the hubby was in the pokey for being a doper. My coworker never bothered to go to public records to find out why his beloved hubby died. He showed a complete and utter lack of commitment to the his husband. He simply shrugged off his "death" and moved on to "take advantage of his freedom."

Tonight, they were supposed to be going out on a date during which my coworker was going to inform his husband that they were no longer married. He no longer wants to be married, so he no longer will be. Simple for him.

This is exactly what I was concerned about when I talked about the people who have no real commitment to their marriage. Marriage is nothing but a word to him. By his action, he cheapens the very meaning of the word to those around him.

In his own little way, in his own little world, he is working to tear down the institution of marriage simply because it is no longer convenient for him to be married anymore.

His problem isn't limited solely to homosexuals. There are many heterosexuals that suffer from the same lack of commitment. But a hetero does not the option of simply declaring themselves divorced.

I realize that there are a great many homosexuals that want to play by the rules, just like everyone else. They don't want anything other than equality. And that's fine; that's a fair request of society.

But society is also within its rights in demanding that the responsible homosexuals apply pressure to the irresponsible in their community. It may not change things right away, but the pressure will eventually help. And that is the best we can work for right now.